Do others see you the way you see yourself?

Ever listen to a friend vent their frustrations about someone else's behavior and think "Oh no! I do that same thing!"? You try to hold your composure as you wonder, "Is that how I come across to others?"

Do others see you the way you see yourself?
Each of us sees the world through the lens of our own personality. Our underlying values and beliefs influence our perception of others. We may have felt personally insulted by someone’s behavior when in reality their intention was genuinely positive. What if I told you it is possible to clear up some of the most common misunderstandings?

Some of the ways each of the personality styles are most misunderstood include:

Connector Personality Style

Nosey or Genuinely Interested?

Having a propensity to ask personal questions, Connectors can come across as someone who gossips excessively or pries into other people’s business.
This style wants to know how people are feeling and what they need and want. If they don’t know what’s going on, how else will they know whether to bake a cake, bring a gift, or offer help?
Planner Personality Style

Obsessive or Well-Organized?

Planners may be perceived as compulsive “neat freaks” who can’t have something out of place or off schedule without it causing great anxiety.
Planners crave order and consistency in their environment. Having things organized and in place helps them feel in control of their lives. A predictable environment is akin to a security blanket for them.
Thinker Personality Style

Uncaring or Objective?

This style can appear to be cold hearted. Perceived as ignoring the needs and values of others when they do not allow emotional pleas to enter into decision-making.
Thinkers see themselves as objective, gathering information and facts relevant to the “case”. Task-focused, they are able to set their emotions aside to make rational decisions to achieve optimal results.
Mover Personality Style

Selfish or Now-Oriented?

Movers can appear to be self-serving—focusing on what would bring them the most pleasure in the moment with little consideration for the needs of others.
Movers believe in living life to the fullest in every moment. Why compromise their immediate needs when tomorrow may never come? They expect that others will take care of themselves like they do.

When you recognize the underlying values driving the behavior, you tend to have greater empathy for others. This enables you to take on a non-assuming attitude of curiosity and provide a more deliberate response to uncomfortable situations.

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